Years ago, I decided to switch from my trio of red, brown, and black henna to just red. I was curious to see how it would look. It was bright, almost orange. I met my parents that week in Carmel, and the first thing my mother said when she saw me was, "I
don't like your hair." She sounded very annoyed.
I, however, did like it. People who didn't know me seemed to think that I was a natural redhead. I have always had fair skin, freckles, and green eyes. It went perfectly with my coloring. I must carry the gene. As I said good bye to my mom that week, she repeated to me, "And I DON'T like you hair," with extreme agitation. She seemed furious that I dared to dye my long, thick, brown hair red. She had very fine, dark brown hair. I thought it was pretty, but she hated it. All my life she would always moan that she didn't know where I had gotten "all that hair"... I think that thick hair and thick nails are genetic.
Several months ago I decided to switch back to the all red version of henna again. It was kind of a shock to see in the mirror at first, but I got tons of compliments. People I saw while shopping seemed to light up at seeing a redhead. They didn't realize that it was henna. I realized again that I love being part of this special club, such a small segment of the population. I feel like I can wear very little make-up, yet the wisps around my face it still give it some color. As I've gotten older, (I am now 55,) I was feeling like I had faded. This bumps everything up again.
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dinner and a show with Clay, our cruise director on the Epic |
When I went to visit my dad before he died, he commented sarcastically, "Oh, so you're a redhead now?" I told him the story of how my mom had reacted to my hair years ago on our trip together to Carmel. I didn't react to his negative tone. His own hair was now grey, and the top of his head was bald. He used to make fun of the women at his bridge club that dyed their hair. I explained to him that women go to a lot of trouble to look their best. If he didn't like their hairstyle, I recommended that he keep it to himself, instead of asking them if it was natural, like he had been doing. (Most of these women were in their eighties and nineties.)
As I applied the henna to my hair this morning, I realized that I adore the result. It makes me feel happy and excited. I have always loved redheads; I think they are mysterious and beautiful. I study the photos of Irish women, with all of their varied shades of hair color. Some are more golden, others have an orange tinge. A few are darker, with highlights. Red hair excites me. It's unusual, bright, and somehow seems spiritual to me. I love that I can get away with people thinking that mine is natural. It's a secret that makes me giggle. I have to let the color sit on my now grey roots for four hours, but it's worth it.
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