Are You Happy or Unhappy?

a picnic at Grassy Hollow Visitor Center near the cabin

I've been thinking recently about why some women over fifty seem so unhappy and depressed.  A lady that I taught yoga to years ago told me,  "When you get older, you can either become  bitter, or more loving."  She was very bright, kind, and generous.  In her smile and attitude I saw the kind of  person that I wanted to grow into as a senior.

Most of the women I know who complain are usually upset with their families.  They aren't getting their needs met, and they don't look elsewhere for happiness.  Many want someone to take care of them.  I don't have children, so that's never been my source of love and companionship, although I loved teaching my girls when I had a teaching career in dance.  The boys were wonderful, too, but it was mostly a female environment.

I think having an  healthy routine is key.  Daily exercise, (that you enjoy,) puts you in a higher state, mentally.  It also discharges negativity.  Many depressed women don't exercise.  Looking your best also raises self esteem.  If your hair, skin, and clothing makes you feel attractive  and sexy, your vibration will be different than someone who hates how they look and has low self esteem.  Daily showers, clean clothes, scrubbed nails, brushed hair, and a bit of lipstick can do wonders.

What really seems to influence our mood in my opinion, is having a home and garden that makes you feel comforted.  It's satisfying to feel proud of your living space.  I am shocked by how many people are now surrounded by stuff, and a lot of it doesn't even belong to them.  If you have objects that are broken, dirty, dusty, or rusty sitting in your yard or home, it will bring the energy down greatly.  In the early days, people really nurtured their homes, and they just had what they needed.  Many people now are drowning in stuff that they don't want, use, or have the space to store.  It can make you sick. I've had people want me to store their extra stuff for them, and I don't take it.  I spend a lot of time keeping my environment clear, and those who hoard sometime take that as a signal to try and start moving their excess into my area.  Sometimes you have to claim your space.  How does your space feel?  Are you happy or unhappy?

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